When you visit the parent page, it will list all its children. Visiting the child page of the parent will show its siblings.
<?php if($post->post_parent) $children = wp_list_pages("sort_column=menu_order&title_li=&depth=1&child_of=".$post->post_parent."&echo=0"); else $children = wp_list_pages("sort_column=menu_order&title_li=&depth=1&child_of=".$post->ID."&echo=0"); if ($children): ?> <ul> <?php echo $children; ?> </ul> <?php endif; ?>